There are many sayings about words and how powerful they can be. One person can charm many people with the power of words, whether their intentions are good or not. Some use their words to gain followers, some to trick people, some to heal them, some to hurt them. Words can make us believe strongly in something even if we have no proof of it. Words can make us want to buy something we don’t even need. Words can make us fear something we don’t even know.
Words can be just words, but they can also be like tools. Words can be controlled but they can also control us. When we are not careful, words can spill out of our mouths which can never be taken back.
I have learned that my words can really affect my own emotions, and they can also affect the emotions of those around me. But this goes the other way around as well. Words can become like chains. Because of this, if I say things like “I can’t to it” or “It won’t work” or “I’m not good enough”, I am immediately using my words as chains, that bind me. And from that moment on, things will go as I said they would. Have you ever noticed how people who are constantly saying negative things about their lives like “Just as usual, I lost my phone”, or “It was only a matter of time before everything would go downhill for me”, seem to really never get out of that vicious downward spiral? That is because they are doing it to themselves! And the more they do this, then they get used to it so they can’t see past this dark cloud they have created around them. They lose the ability to see things in any other way for themselves. It’s like they put on a pair of glasses that have a tint on them which makes them see everything in a negative way, but they have worn the glasses for too long so they don’t notice them anymore.
For a person like that, it is difficult for those who care about them to help them. They don’t want to believe that they can change, because they just don’t want to anymore. It is a bad habit that isn’t so easy to give up, just like smoking or hoarding. However, just because they have this difficulty it doesn’t mean we should give up on them. We should never give up on them.
Unfortunately, there is another side to this problem. Your own words are not the only words that can bind you this way. Other people can do this to you as well. If someone you care about, or someone that you look up to, someone important to you, were to constantly reinforce negativity on you, then you would be in the same situation I described above. And as long as they continue beating you down with words, you will continue to fall unless you break away from them altogether. I’ve seen it happen. One person continuously beating down on another person with negative remarks like “You won’t amount to anything”, “I knew you wouldn’t be able to do it” and other horrible words, can have a lasting effect on someone who doesn’t know how to defend themselves from this abuse. Long term, this situation can make the person being abused unable to live a normal life, constantly being haunted by the negative words which they end up believing. It can be truly devastating.
We’ve all heard sayings like “You reap what you sow”, and “Like attracts like”. Sayings aren’t around for no reason. Your words can be chains that bind you, they are as magnets that attract whatever you are talking about. Breaking away from long term negativity that has been attracted and is now keeping you down like chains can be a very difficult task, but anything is possible. When you have been doing things a certain way, and they don’t seem to work out as you’d like, it is time to change your approach. The key word here is CHANGE. And change means you have to make an effort, you have to really want it and really do something about it. Sounds difficult? I guarantee you, breaking away from a negative downward spiral and into the life you want and deserve will be completely worth the effort. And this is something we can all do because all it requires is our own thoughts, our own words. There is no magic pill, no course to take, no equipment to buy. It’s completely free.
Also, if you know someone that is going through this, you can use your own words and thoughts to help them now. Even if you’ve tried to talk to them and convince them to stop saying this or that, doing this or that and it doesn’t work, you can help them. Having the most positive expectations of someone is the best gift you can give them. And letting them know you have no doubt they will succeed won’t hurt either, every once in a while. 😉 Be as stubborn as they are, but in a good way.
Just remember how it feels when your own mother or significant other tells you that they love you, or when someone gives you an unexpected but sweet compliment. Doesn’t that feel so much better?
The next time you see your face in the mirror, why not say something nice? Don’t be so serious about it, just a smile, a wink of the eye, a “Hey good looking!”, followed by a laugh. Feels good doesn’t it? That means it is having a positive effect on you. Imagine if we did this every single day, if we used kind, positive words when referring to ourselves and others.
Anything is possible!